Recently someone said to me that they “did not agree with everything I said but..” When I heard this I suddenly realized that it didn’t matter to me if someone did not agree with everything I say or believe. In fact I realized that it didn’t matter to me if they disagreed with everything I ever said to them.
How can this be? I thought to myself. I used to think it mattered a great deal and I wanted everyone to agree with me, and see things the way I saw them. I would spend hours in long involved discussions trying to get people to see things the way I saw them. Was it because I felt that I was right and they, (poor misguided souls,) were wrong? Maybe; but more than likely it was because I hoped I was right and the more people I could get to agree with me the better I felt.
Everyone has a unique point of view and it would be quite impossible to find someone who truly saw things the way you did. You might find people who somewhat agree with a lot of what you say and do, but no two people will agree on everything. To expect or need or want that is unrealistic.
If you find someone you really like and you have a lot of things in common, and you agree on the important things, there is no reason to pick apart the relationship over the small things or little differences of opinions. What is more important is the relationship, not the opinions. Opinions come and go and change. The person is important. The person should be held as the most important thing in the relationship and being right is not worth the damage it could cause trying to prove it.
Posted by: Gloria
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